So this post is super personal, but I was very open with the process and if this could give just one person a tiny glimmer of hope, I’ll be happy as.

Around this time two years ago I ( by I, I mean Gerry and I ) was about to start a journey that has changed our lives forever, in the best kind of way EVER.  We struggled to get pregnant for about 2 years, when I called Fertility Associates in Hamilton.  We couldn’t go on the waiting list because we weren’t residence of New Zealand at the time.  A couple of years later we qualified…and BOOM we’re on the waiting list.

We waited about 12 months to start, and thinking back now, those 12 months went pretty damn fast.  Then we started…the injections scared me the most, but they aren’t bad at all and they just became a part off my daily routine.  Then they harvest your eggs, physically this the hardest.  I was in a lot of pain, but I had Gerry to look after me and I had chocolate.  The next stage is where I cried the most.  So they fertilise the eggs in their lab and they watch them like hawks. We ended up with 9 fertilised eggs…so heres where it got real emotional for me.  As the days went on, our embryos died, they rung us and said we need to go in for a day 3 transfer.  Many people get pregnant with a day 3 embryo, but a day 5 ( they are called blastocysts ) is way better.  We went in for our transfer, and it so amazing to see it all on the screen, it looked like a little shooting star entering my uterus.  I was so scared to go to the toilet, because I didn’t want it to come out, but the nurse assured me it wouldn’t.  The rest of the embryos were kept in the lab to see if they will grow to blastocysts, on the Sunday the lab rung me and said they had all died…I had no more embryos.  This phone call fucked up my entire day.  My only chance was the one they’d already transferred.    So all we could do now was wait…and they make you wait long, I can not remember how long, but it felt like a lifetime before you go for your blood test to see if it had worked.  It did.

We have the most amazing little Mila, she’s 13 months old already and we love her more than anything in the world.

 

I have linked Fertility Associates if anyone needs help, they are incredible.

Photo credits go to my wonderful hubby Gerry, my bestie Jo and I even took a couple myself.

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Jenn
April 10, 2015
Congrats Nita and thanks for sharing your story. This is one I can relate to as I have a 4 year old boy from our first cycle and none of our other embies survived. I have photos very similar to these and I agree FA Hamilton are awesome!
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    admin
    April 24, 2015
    Yay for a happy story!!! Thank you for ready my blog Jenn xx
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Jules
April 11, 2015
Nita, I cried. Mila is so beautiful and is a wee miracle in the biggest possible way. You and Gerry are super lucky, but so is Mila because she landed herself some fucken awesome parents xx
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    admin
    April 24, 2015
    You are fucken awesome!!! Love you Jules x
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April 21, 2015
Hey there what an amazing story im yet to goto my apointment where he xplains whatz next az ive just had a tube test done an found owt one is blocked the other abnormal im 28 an to this day stil think im guna get pregnant Kan i ask why the injections are painful as im scared of them.also what tests do my husband jake?
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    admin
    April 24, 2015
    Hi Amanda. It's great to hopeful, it helps a lot through this journey! With us, it was Gerry who had almost no sperm, so they had to injected one single sperm into a egg and fertilise it that way. The injections was what I feared the most, but they are not that bad, you get use to them :) Thank you for reading my blog, you are more than welcome to ask me anything. Here's my email meyer.nita1@gmail.com N x
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Leanne
April 21, 2015
Thanks for sharing. We did 3 rounds of IVF many years ago in Christchurch. This was back in the days when they transferred 2 or 3 at once to improve chances. We managed to freeze some embryos too. But no success. It still breaks my heart that I never got to carry a baby inside me. They were some of the hardest most heartbreaking times I've ever endured. On the bright (very bright) side we have two beautiful adopted children that I wouldn't swap for anything.
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    admin
    April 24, 2015
    Hi Leanne. I'm sorry about that, but like you said you have two beautiful children. Everybody's journey is so different, some end well and some don't, and it's so hard to understand these things. We are thinking for our second to maybe adopt :) Thank you for ready my blog. N x
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jen
April 21, 2015
Congrats on ur beautiful bub. I'm currently on the waiting list and will b having surgery this week to remove my blocked and fluid filled fallopian tubes. Am yet to go through the injections etc. Good to hear positive outcomes and others experiences. Thanks for sharing. I hope we have the same success.
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    admin
    April 24, 2015
    Hi Jen! Best of luck with your journey. I really hope you have great success too x Thank you for ready my story. N x
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Jyoti
April 22, 2015
isn't it amazing to see what all we go through, and the end result is the best one. makes it all worthwhile.
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    admin
    April 24, 2015
    Totally x
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Jemma
April 26, 2015
Always so nice to read a happy ever after. We have done two cycles so far. Both making it to day 5 but with none to freeze ending in a BPN and a chemical pregnancy. Round three all set for June. Hearing stories like this keeps me forever hopeful x
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    admin
    April 28, 2015
    Hang in there Jemma! I wish you all the best with your journey xxx
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nadine
April 28, 2015
And thus right here has brought me to tears and reinforces why I do what I do... I'm a surrogate. My heart goes out to all of you ladies facing fertility issues.
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